Restoring Trust. Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP-C

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      About the Author

      Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D., SATP, CSAT-C, is a Licensed Clinical Therapist and Assistant Director of Comprehensive Counseling Services in Conshohocken, Pennsylvania. He holds an M.A. in Clinical-Counseling Psychology and a Ph.D. in General Psychology. Dr. Kleponis has over twenty years of professional experience working with individuals, couples, families, and organizations. He specializes in marriage and family therapy, pastoral counseling, and pornography/sexual addiction recovery. He is Certified in the Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Addictions by The American Association of Christian Counselors’ Light University; by Dr. Mark Laaser’s Freedom Begins Here program; and by Dr. Todd Bowman’s SATP program. He is cofounder of www.IntegrityRestored.com.

      Dr. Kleponis has been a guest on several EWTN television programs including Women of Grace, Franciscan University Presents, Crossing the Goal, EWTN Bookmark, and @ Home with Jim & Joy. He is also a regular guest on Relevant Radio’s On-Call and Morning Air programs. He travels throughout the United States and internationally, educating people on how to win the battle against pornography through his Fighting Porn in Our Culture … and Winning! program. He is the author of The Pornography Epidemic: A Catholic Approach (2012), Integrity Restored: Helping Catholic Families Win the Battle Against Pornography (2014), Integrity Starts Here! A Catholic Approach to Restoring Sexual Integrity (2016), and Revealed: Exposing the Truth about Pornography (2018). Dr. Kleponis is also founder of the Integrity Starts Here! Catholic recovery program for pornography and sexual addiction. He works with individuals and couples from around the United States and internationally in-person, by phone, and by Skype. For more information, log on to www.PeterKleponis.com.

      Dedication

      This book is dedicated to all the Catholic couples whose marriages were damaged by pornography addiction, and who persevered in recovery to achieve personal and marital healing and restoration. You are a tremendous witness of hope to all couples who are hurting because of pornography addiction.

      Contents

       Acknowledgments

       How to Use This Book

       Key Terms

       Part I: Understanding and Healing Pornography Addiction

       Chapter 1:

       What Pornography Does to Marriages

       Chapter 2:

       Defining and Diagnosing Pornography Addiction

       Chapter 3:

       The Disease of Pornography Addiction

       Chapter 4:

       Recovery for an Addicted Husband or Wife

       Part II: Accompanying and Healing Spouses of Pornography Addicts

       Chapter 5:

       The Trauma of Betrayal

       For the Wife of a Pornography Addict

       For the Husband of a Pornography Addict

       Chapter 6:

       His Story: What Both of You Need to Know about His Illness

       Chapter 7:

       Her Story: What Both of You Need to Know about Her Illness

       Chapter 8:

       Healing for the Betrayed Spouse

       Part III: Restoring Your Marriage

       Chapter 9:

       To the Addicted Spouse: Your Role in Healing Your Marriage