The Road to Resilience. Adam Przytula

hours every night. I'm all about the 80/20 rule. I eat healthily 80 per cent of the time so I can eat whatever I like 20 per cent of the time.

      WHY YOU NEED A HEALTHY SELF‐ESTEEM

      Having a healthy self‐esteem is vital.

      It means we can deal with any of life's challenges with ease.

      We all experience problems in life — it's inevitable. But having the skills to deal with problems as they come up makes life easier, more enjoyable and more fulfilling.

      You've got this!

      Answer these questions to revise what you've learned about self‐esteem.

      1 Can you think of a movie, book or TV series where a character starts out with low self‐esteem but by the end of the movie/show has developed high self‐esteem?

      2 What did the character in question 1 do to improve how they felt about themselves?

      3 Do you think it's possible you might see yourself differently from how others see you? Yes NoIf you answered yes, in what way do you think you might see yourself differently from how others see you?

      4 What Automatic Negative Thought (ANT) do you experience often?For example, I used to always think, I’m ugly because I have narrow eyes and a big forehead.Write down your ANT:

      5  Can you rephrase your ANT in question 4 into a positive thought?For example, I've rephrased my thought to: I have my Opa’s eyes and forehead. My Opa was Polish and survived the war. I’m really proud to be his grandson.Write down your positive thought:

      6 Do you consider yourself to be self‐aware (‘tuned in’ to what you're thinking and how you're feeling)? Yes No

      7 A coping mechanism is a behaviour or action you tend to turn to during times of stress. What are some of the coping mechanisms you usually turn to?

      8 Think about your friendships and relationships.Is there someone in your life who makes you feel good when you're around them? Yes NoWhat is it about this person that makes you feel good?On the flipside, is there someone in your life who makes you feel negative about yourself? Yes NoWhy do you think this is?

      9 What are five things you are grateful for right now?

      10 Identify someone you can talk to about how you are feeling or the things you are going through. You can either write down their name, or write the role they play (e.g. teacher, family member, school counsellor).Note: This person should be an adult. They should also be objective, meaning they will be honest with you and tell you things as they really are.