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is important that you concentrate on both at the same time. So on the breathing and on the feet. Is the wispy voice still there? Don't worry.

      Then you will also notice how you feel the back of the chair. So focus on breathing, feet on the floor and chair back. It is quite likely that you cannot concentrate on these three things at the same time. And that's a good thing, because then you can no longer concentrate on the screaming voice.

      3. Sun versus waste oil

      If the Wusel has already caused bad mood, frustration or anger, the following exercise helps:

      Sit comfortably, watch for a moment on your breathing and feel your feet on the floor. Notice how you breathe and breathe out while your feet are stably on the floor. Close your eyes and bring the focus to the inside of your body. Imagine how the stress, the anxiety, the anger, all the negative thoughts and moods in your heart have found a place where all of this condenses into a thick soup, a black broth - similar to waste oil.

      The mental drain valve

      Now install mentally a drain including check valve on one leg at the height of your ankle. This does not have to be anything complicated, a simple drain valve is enough. If you feel like it works with a golden valve. You decide.

      Open the shut-off valve and notice how the black broth, the old waste oil, flows out of you through the drain and the liquid level continues to drop. When everything is outside, close the valve again. Give yourself a moment to feel how it feels.

      Think of an energy source

      Imagine an energy source just above your head. This can be a sun or a bright light, something that is comfortable and embodies the energy positively charged to you. Now visualize a kind of flap on top of the head that you open to let in the positive energy. And see how your body is enriched bit by bit with this soothing, positive energy.

      Do not listen until the energy really fills you completely. Then you can close the flap and enjoy the positive energy. This exercise can be a wonderful mood brightener. Here, too, as always: Give yourself the necessary time and a quiet place.

      4. Perceive the world again with all your senses

      The next exercise is very light and yet very efficient. When a whisper starts, we usually experience a rather limited way of perception, a kind of tunnel vision. What is closer than expanding this restricted perception again and taking an 360-degree perspective instead of the tunnel?

      If you notice that a wusel is just in the starting blocks, be aware of your surroundings. Look around slowly and see what you see. Every little detail is important. Let your eyes wander slowly. Also, listen to what you hear, no matter what it is: music or noise, voices, or just silence. Listen carefully while you keep your eyes moving. Try to take your surroundings with a sharpness and accuracy that is often increased.

      For the most part, our brain receives so many sensory impressions through this exercise, that there is no more space for the perception of the wusel voice.

      The result

      Each of the four exercises from the emergency package above helps to stop paying attention to the wusel for a short time.

      Don't be too surprised if the bustle has long since disappeared over all mountains when you have finished the exercise.

       Text comes from: Wuselmanagement: Wie Sie Selbstsabotage vermeiden und den inneren Kritiker für sich gewinnen (2013) by Claudia Hupprich, published by BusinessVillage Verlag, Reprints by friendly permission of the publisher.

      Simply make decisions for leaders: yes, no, maybe?

      // By Markus Hornung

      More salary, more responsibility, more career: A new job is created and offers an employee of the team unexpected advancement opportunities. Great news or dilemma? For the executive it is often both. After all, the boss has to decide who he is to take the place and accept that he is hitting other employees with it.

      Negative emotions are part of the job

      It is part of the proven standard repertoire of a boss to make unpleasant decisions and to represent them clearly. Often, however, superiors also have a bad feeling about it. Maybe there is the employee, who has been dedicated for years, who does not fool anyone in the department.

      And yet he lacks social skills or openness for new ideas. If the new position is required, the boss will wisely use a more appropriate colleague.

      What is behind the envy of your colleagues?

      Regardless of who the manager chooses: Another member of the team will probably see himself in the new position. The opportunity to defuse the conflict lies in a one-on-one conversation. If an employee has been left out during the promotion, this is a personal defeat.

      After all, his qualifications, successes and his daily work were not enough to win the race in the office. In search of the reasons, he compares his projects, values ​​and strengths with those of the more successful colleague and may come to the conclusion: “This is unfair! I should have deserved the promotion. ” This can permanently impair motivation.

      Understand emotions and make decisions

      Leadership can take pressure here if it takes the incomprehension, the annoyance and ultimately the disappointment up and take seriously. If they manage to respond unconditionally to the emotions of the employee, they will subside.

      A helpful phrase is, for example, "I can understand that you are having trouble making this decision and that you are disappointed." In doing so, the supervisor signals a sincere interest and sympathy for the hurt feelings of the employee.

      In short, sincere, engaging

      Bosses are well advised to keep challenging debates short. As hard as it may sound, that means: No small talk to initiate the conversation and no phrases of appeasement. One said: "Is everything half as bad" does not help anyone.

      If the employee is really angry, he will only calm down if he has the feeling, that has also arrived at the opposite. The supervisor can adapt to the emotional situation of his employee: So also lift the voice and do not try to calm the other in a muted tone. So the boss makes clear that he understands what moves his team member.

      Transparent criteria for the decision

      It is also a good preparation to consider good and comprehensible motivations, priorities and criteria during the decision-making phase.

      Supervisors can reveal these when employees who have been handed over are asked specifically. This helps both the superior to represent his decision and the employee to accept them more easily.

       Text comes from: Der Abschied von der Sachlichkeit: Wie Sie mit Emotionen tatsächlich für Bewegung sorgen (2015) by Markus Hornung, published by BusinessVillage Verlag, Reprints by friendly permission of the publisher.

      Good decision for executives: with intuition and understanding

      // By Nadja Raslan

      In your day-to-day management you will experience situations that on the one hand leave you no time for detailed analyzes, but on the other demand a quick and clear decision. What Helps Them Do: Use Intuition and Mind.

      Use your intuition

      Use the signals of your subconscious mind