Win Conflicts, Secure your Power Position & Status. Simone Janson

techniques is by no means old style and even increases in the concept of Affirmations by Noah St. John.

      Other than the affirmations, affirmations trigger actively shaping processes on a mental level - and this through a small and powerful “editorial” intervention.

      Like a counter-charm

      An example is a wailing whine of your partner or your partner. First, be aware that there is a subtle way of control that you can consciously accept or reject.

      This is particularly difficult if, for example, tears are the "usual" means of choice to appeal to your helpfulness and compliance. Here, too, the separation of information and emotion helps in terms of quick wit and distance.

      Who's crying is not right

      You will soon realize that tears are just an expression of momentary emotions and, at best, a statement of emotional concern that can be different for any other person in the same situation.

      Tears do not say anything about whether someone is right and therefore basically a claim to our support.

      Use inverse logic

      You can also use this kind of inverse logic in your work and react completely differently than expected. Ask yourself:

       What did the other actually say?

       Is there any interruption that you have just found impertinent?

       Is there a part that you might even agree with?

      Agree instead of annoy

      Praise this part, ignore the rest, and then continue your own argumentation

       “Exactly Mr. Maier, we agree on point X. Let us now turn to the things that we should also consider and that complete the picture. ”

      The art of not reacting

      The goal of this exercise is to break away from the supposed obligation to emotionally respond to the behavior of others. Federal Chancellor Angelika Merkel is a true master in the art of acting responsively by non-reacting and thus initiating political decisions.

      Their seeming idleness is one of the classic themes of every contemporary political cabaret artist. Not bad for a person who has been described as the most powerful woman in the world for years.

      Take time for the reaction

      Angela Merkel ignores media representatives and political opponents, no matter how loudly they demand a statement from the Chancellor. It adjourns rather than spontaneously making a directional decision, avoiding the possible traps of your opponents. The Chancellor takes the time to determine your reactions and then acts confidently.

      Even in talkshows, you can admire the art of not responding as a form of quickness. The fact that politicians simply ignore a question or an attack from a counterparty is no accident, but a conscious strategy.

      A strategy that works

      And the apparent non-reaction as a strategy works! It shows the opponent how the balance of power is distributed: Whoever answers every question, is deeper in the hierarchy than the skillful silence.

      A zero reaction shows that you can not predict the course of the conversation. If you want to be more playful in such situations, then you can still participate in the conversation with interest and benevolent silence, without having to react to the obstinacy of your opponents. Maybe you really do not want that.

       Text comes from: Einfach schlagfertig: Zehn Methoden, die jeder anwenden kann (2015) by Peter Kensok, Petra Schächtele-Philipp, published by BusinessVillage Verlag, Reprints by friendly permission of the publisher.