Stopping. David Kundtz

      

      Copyright © 1998 by David J. Kundtz, S.T.D.

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      ISBN: 1-57324-109-1

      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Kundtz, David, 1937–

      Stopping : how to be still when you have to keep going / David Kundtz; foreword by Richard Carlson.

      p. cm.

      Includes bibliographical references.

      ISBN 1-57324-109-1 (trade paper)

      1. Quietude. I. Title.

      BJ1533.Q5K85 1998

      158—dc21

      97-31202

      Printed in the United States of America on recycled paper.

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      To the memory of my father whose example taught me about Stopping. To the memory of my mother who always encouraged me to write.

      CONTENTS

       Foreword

      I

       Stopping at the Speed of Light

       1. Facing the Mountain of Too Much

       2. Why Cramming and Cutting Don't Work

       3. Doing Nothing

       4. A Fast Train on the Fast Track

       5. Stopping at the Speed of Light

       6. Intentional Living: From Routine to Choice

       7. Stopping Before Everything

       8. Contemporary Contemplation

       9. Finding the Spaces Between the Notes

       10. Stopped: Awake and Remembering

       11. Stop and Go for It!

      II

       The Three Ways of Stopping

       12. Stillpoints, Stopovers, and Grinding Halts

       13. Stillpoints: The Heart and Soul of Stopping

       14. Breathing Is Inspiring

       15. Stillpoints in a Turning World

       16. Stopovers: More of a Good Thing

       17. Stopovers on the Way

       18. This Is Your Body Talking

       19. Excuses! Excuses!

       20. The Watersheds and Sea Changes of Life

       21. Grinding Halts Are Good for You

       22. Growing “Like Corn in the Night,”

       23. Freeing and Finding Your Truth

       24. Everyday Spirituality

      III

       The Gifts of Stopping

       25. Stopping's Benefits

       26. The Gift of Attention

       27. The Gift of Relaxation

       28. The Gift of Solitude

       29. The Gift of Openness

       30. The Gift of Boundaries

       31. The Gift of Embracing Your Shadow

       32. The Gift of Purpose

      IV

       Exploring the Challenges of Stopping

       33. Moving Down to the Roots

       34. When Society Says “Don't,”

       35. “I'm Afraid!,”

       36. Seeing the Enemy

       37. Owning