Self Esteem Bible: Build Your Confidence Day by Day. Gael Lindenfield

156 Calm Yourself Before You Talk

       157 Script Your Speech Before You Say Something Important

       158 Challenge Your Own Rationalizations

       159 Learn for Learning’s Sake

       160 Renew your New Year Resolutions Three Times a Year

       161 Surround Yourself With Stimulation

       162 Trust Yourself to Know When You are Happy

       163 Get Comfortable With Solitude

       164 Keep a ‘Good Ideas’ Notebook

       165 Defeat is a Perception not a Fact

       166 Reward Your Every Effort

       167 Give Yourself the Holidays You Deserve

       168 Remember You are Defeating Yourself by not Trying

       169 Celebrate the Uncelebrated

       170 Give Yourself a Diversion Day Once in a While

       171 Get to Know Yourself so You Can Get to Know Others Better

       172 Distinguish the Hard from the Impossible

       173 Know Who Knows 95% of the Real You

       174 Acknowledge the Power of Your Emotional Wounds

       175 Keep a Very Private Diary

       176 Never Confuse Self-esteem With Arrogance

       177 Exercise Your Right Brain Regularly

       178 Use Your Dreams to Understand Your Needs

       179 Write and Recite Your Own Credo

       180 Own Your Fears

       181 Identify the Root Triggers to Your Persistent Fears

       182 Write a New Set of Ten Commandments

       183 Treat Each Minor Loss as a Mini-bereavement

       184 Let Others Help You Through Your Losses

       185 Deal Openly With Jealousy

       186 Don’t Shop Till You Drop

       187 Say ‘No’ Simply, Firmly and Directly

       188 Save for the Leisure and Pleasure you Deserve

       189 Treat Problems Like Jigsaws

       190 Take Regular Breaks When Problem-solving

       191 Make a Contribution to The World

       192 Think Before Delegating Your Difficulties

       193 Watch Out for Double Standards

       Part 3 – Relationships

       194 Accept that to Love is to Risk

       195 Think Before You Question

       196 Deepen Your Special Relationships

       197 Review Your Relationships Regularly

       198 Agree With the Truth in Criticisms

       199 Avoid Giving Unnecessary Justifications

       200 Don’t Give Yourself a Put-down in Response to a Justified Criticism

       201 Don’t Forgive Before Trying to Get Even

       202 Spend More Time With Young Children

       203 Release Your Tension Before a Confrontation

       204 Worry Less about What Insignificant Others Think

       205 Deal With Mini-frustrations Promptly

       206 Test the Depth of Your Relationships With Your Faults

       207 Use Friends With a Sense of Humour to Keep Perspective

       208 Don’t be Afraid of Looking Back After a Rejection

       209 Express Your Feelings After a Rejection

       210 Keep the End You Want in Sight

       211 Let Yourself be Comforted by Others After a Rejection

       212 Compensate Yourself After a Break-up

       213 Help Yourself Gain a New Perspective After a Rejection

       214 Build Your Self-reliance After a Break-up