Panic Free. Tom Bunn

the child not only to experience high levels of . . . arousal, but to entrain the circuits of the brain to be able to manage such states.” When a caregiver and child share emotional experiences, they exchange conscious and unconscious signals that teach the child that all levels of arousal are normal, potentially pleasurable, and manageable.

      Siegel goes on to say that it is important for the child to know that the caregiver feels what the child is feeling. “Feeling felt . . . having the sense that someone else feels one’s feelings and is able to respond contingently to one’s communication may be vital to close relationships of all sorts throughout the lifespan.”