The Resilient Founder. Mahendra Ramsinghani

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Название The Resilient Founder
Автор произведения Mahendra Ramsinghani
Жанр Личные финансы
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1-1 Do our attitudes define our outcomes?

      Ben blogged openly about his inner struggles. His expressions resonated with founders worldwide.

      The first thing he changed was his behavior.

      He left the room.

      Maybe getting up and leaving the darkness, making the choice to deal with reality, is the first step toward recovery.

      Developing the right attitude, strengthening it - it all takes time. We would not be here if we had those traits. But let us take the first step - like Ben, let us leave the dark room. And move one step closer to well-being.

      1 1. K. L. Syme, Z. H. Garfield, and E. H. Hagen, “Testing the Bargaining vs. Inclusive Fitness Models of Suicidal Behavior against the Ethnographic Record,” Evolution and Human Behavior 37, no. 3 (2016): 179–192.

      2 2. Repeated thoughts and excessive ruminations are a cry for help.

      3 3. J. Kruger and D. Dunning, “Unskilled and Unaware of It: How Difficulties in Recognizing One's Own Incompetence Lead to Inflated Self-Assessments,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 77, no. 6 (1999): 1121–1134. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.77.6.1121

      Later that night, I read Meggie Royer's poem, “The Morning After I Killed Myself,” in which she narrates the regrets of a suicide and how she tries to unkill herself. She writes about the orange tree and the red cloud – the sun rising, setting. She writes about eggs and toast and cheese. About love for her mother. I wished that Mark had read this poem too. Because if he had read it, maybe, just maybe, he might have changed his mind.

       The Morning After I Killed Myself, I Woke Up

       -by Meggie Royer

       The morning after I killed myself, I woke up. I made myself breakfast in bed. I added salt and pepper to my eggs and used my toast for a cheese and bacon sandwich. I squeezed a grapefruit into a juice glass. I scraped the ashes from the frying pan and rinsed the butter off the counter. I washed the dishes and folded the towels.

       The morning after I killed myself, I fell in love. Not with the boy down the street or the middle school principal. Not with the everyday jogger or the grocer who always left the avocados out of the bag. I fell in love with my mother and the way she sat on the floor of my room holding each rock from my collection in her palms until they grew dark with sweat. I fell in love with my father down at the river as he placed my note into a bottle and sent it into the current. With my brother who once believed in unicorns but who now sat in his desk at school trying desperately to believe I still existed.

       The morning after I killed myself, I walked the dog. I watched the way her tail twitched when a bird flew by or how her pace quickened at the sight of a cat. I saw the empty space in her eyes when she reached a stick and turned around to greet me so we could play catch but saw nothing but sky in my place. I stood by as strangers stroked her muzzle and she wilted beneath their touch like she did once for mine.

       The morning after I killed myself, I went back to the neighbors' yard where I left my footprints in concrete as a two year old and examined how they were already fading. I picked a few daylilies and pulled a few weeds and watched the elderly woman through her window as she read the paper with the news of my death. I saw her husband spit tobacco into the kitchen sink and bring her her daily medication.

       The morning after I killed myself, I watched the sun come up. Each orange tree opened like a hand and the kid down the street pointed out a single red cloud to his mother.

       The morning after I killed myself, I went back to that body in the morgue and tried to talk some sense into her. I told her about the avocados and the stepping stones, the river and her parents. I told her about the sunsets and the dog and the beach.

       The morning after I killed myself, I tried to unkill myself, but couldn't finish what I started.

       Suicide is, after all, the result of a choice. However impulsive the action and confused the motives, at the moment when a man finally decides to take his own life he achieves a certain temporary clarity. Suicide may be a declaration of bankruptcy which passes judgment on a life as one long history of failure. But it is a decision which, by its very finality, is not wholly a failure. There is, I believe, a whole class of suicides who take their own lives not in order to die but to escape confusion, to clear their heads. They deliberately use suicide to create an unencumbered reality for themselves or to break through the patterns of obsession and necessity which they have unwittingly imposed on their lives.

Snapshot of the post from Yashar Ali.

      Source: Twitter, Inc.

      This Might Be Just a Passing Phase, One of My Bad Days

Graph depicts most depression episodes drop after ~10 months.

       I Go Down to the Shore