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1 (2009): 157–180; Renata Salecl, “Self in Times of Tyranny of Choice,” FKW//Zeitschrift für Geschlechterforschung und visuelle Kultur, no. 50 (2010): 10–23; Renata Salecl, The Tyranny of Choice (London: Profile Books, 2011).

      43 43. Stephenie Meyer, “Frequently Asked Questions: Breaking Dawn,” accessed September 11, 2016, http://stepheniemeyer.com/the-books/breaking-dawn/frequently-asked-questions-breaking-dawn/.

      44 44. Renata Salecl, “Society of Choice,” Differences 20, no. 1 (2009): 157–180; Renata Salecl, “Self in Times of Tyranny of Choice,” FKW//Zeitschrift für Geschlechterforschung und visuelle Kultur, no. 50 (2010); Renata Salecl, The Tyranny of Choice (London: Profile Books, 2011).

      45 45. Durkheim, Suicide.

      46 46. Günther Anders, “The Pathology of Freedom: An Essay on Non-identification,” trans. Katharine Wolfe, Deleuze Studies 3, no. 2 (2009): 278–310. See also Eric S. Nelson, “Against Liberty: Adorno, Levinas and the Pathologies of Freedom,” Theoria 59, no. 131 (2012): 64–83.

      47 47. See Manuel Castells, “The Net and the Self: Working Notes for a Critical Theory of the Informational Society,” Critique of Anthropology 16, no. 1 (1996): 9–38.

      48 48. Eva Illouz, Why Love Hurts (Cambridge: Polity Press, 2012).

      49 49. See Wolfgang Streeck, “How to Study Contemporary Capitalism?” European Journal of Sociology/Archives Européennes de Sociologie 53, no. 1 (2012): 1–28.

      50 50. See, for example, Peter Brooks and Horst Zank, “Loss Averse Behavior,” Journal of Risk and Uncertainty 31, no. 3 (2005): 301–325; Matthew Rabin, “Psychology and Economics,” Journal of Economic Literature 36, no. 1 (1998): 11–46; Colin F. Camerer, “Prospect Theory in the Wild: Evidence from the Field,” in Choices, Values, and Frames, ed. Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2000), 288–300.

      51 51. “I Don’t,” The Economist, September 1, 2016, http://www.economist.com/news/asia/21706321-most-japanese-want-be-married-are-finding-it-hard-i-dont.

      52 52. Fraser, Nancy. 2016. “Contradictions of Capitalism and Care, New Left Review, June–July, pp. 99–117.

      53 53. As Daniel Bachman and Akrur Barua describe based on US Census Bureau reports: “Between 1960 and 2014, the median age of first marriage rose to 29.3 years for men and 27.0 years for women from 22.8 years and 20.3 years, respectively.1 During this time, the share of single-person households in total households more than doubled to 27.7 percent and the average number of people per household fell to 2.54 from 3.33.” “Between 1999 and 2014, the number of single-person households went up to about 34.2 million from 26.6 million, an average annual rise of 1.7 percent. Growth in total households during the same period was lower (1.1 percent), leading to a more than 2 percentage point rise in the share of single-person households in total households.” “The projections show that single-person households are set to reach about 41.4 million by 2030, an average annual rise of 1.1 percent over 2015–2030.” US Census Bureau, “Families and Living Arrangements: Marital Status,” October 21, 2015, https://www.census.gov/hhes/families/data/marital.html; US Census Bureau, “Families and Living Arrangements: Households,” October 21, 2015. Ibid. Daniel Bachman and Akrur Barua “Single-person Households: Another Look at the Changing American Family.” (n.p.: Deloitte University Press, 2015), http://dupress.deloitte.com/dup-us-en/economy/behind-the-numbers/single-person-households-and-changing-american-family.html, accessed September 11, 2016.

      54 54. W. Bradford Wilcox “The Evolution of Divorce,” National Affairs (Fall 2009), accessed September 11, 2016, http://nationalaffairs.com/publications/detail/the -evolution-of-divorce.

      55 55. As Claire Cain Miller shows based on “Survey of Income and Program Participation.” It is important to note that Miller also shows that since the peak in the 1970s and early 1980s, the divorce rate has been declining for people who married since the 1990s. Claire Cain Miller, “The Divorce Surge Is Over, but the Myth Lives On,” New York Times, December 4, 2014, accessed September 11, 2016, http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html.

      56 56. Charlotte Lytton, “I Me Wed: Why Are More Women Choosing to Marry Themselves?” The Telegraph (London), September 28, 2017 http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/women-choosing-marry/, accessed February 13, 2018.

      57 57. G. Oscar Anderson, Loneliness among Older Adults: A National Survey of Adults 45+. Washington, DC: AARP Research, September 2010, https://doi.org/10.26419/res.00064.001.

      58 58. Julianne Holt-Lunstad, “So Lonely I Could Die,” American Psychological Association, August 5, 2017, https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2017/08/lonely-die.aspx.

      59 59. Jane E. Brody, “The Surprising Effects of Loneliness on Health,” New York Times, December 11, 2017, accessed February 13, 2018, https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/11/well/mind/how-loneliness-affects-our-health.html?_r=0.

      60 60. Anna Goldfarb, “How to Maintain Friendships,” New York Times, January 18, 2018, https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/18/smarter-living/how-to-maintain-friends.html, accessed February 13, 2018.

      61 61. Julian, Kate. 2018. “Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?” in Atlantic 2018 December, https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/.

      62 62. Some of the people were interviewed in cafes and were found through snowball procedure. Others were acquaintances who shared with me their experiences. All names have been anonymized. When details about an interviewee were potentially revealing of his or her identity, I deliberately changed them to ensure maximum anonymity (for example if someone occupied a unique professional position, I deliberately changed that position while maintaining a roughly similar educational and economic background). I interviewed a majority of heterosexual men and women but occasionally refer to homosexuals when I thought they reflect quite well processes at work in heterosexual couples as well. The sample included twenty-four divorcees, thirty-four married people, and thirty-four people in casual relationships or without relationships. It included forty-seven women and forty-five men. Because of the sensitive nature of the interviews, I quickly abandoned my recording device and interview protocol and instead used informal conversations to elicit accounts that were written down from memory immediately after my encounters. This method was most definitely less obtrusive and is in line with ethnographic mode of analysis. Occasionally, I wrote down by hand the main points of the conversation while it was happening. These conversations lasted anywhere from thirty minutes to one and a half hours.

      63 63. Lauren Berlant, “Slow Death (Sovereignty, Obesity, Lateral Agency),” Critical Inquiry 33, no. 4 (2007): 754–780.