The Highly Sensitive Child. Elaine N.Aron

affected by your own temperament, and the biggest issues to be faced with HSCs, regardless of the age of your child. The second half focuses on specific age groups, all the way from infancy to the young adult who has left home. You should read about all ages of HSCs because (1) there are fresh ideas in each chapter that also apply to children of other ages; (2) under stress, HSCs can return to the behaviors and problems of a younger age, and when feeling good HSCs can act older than their age, so the advice for an age that your child is not may still apply right now; and (3) understanding what was happening during the years before you read this book and what will happen in the years ahead can help you a great deal with your child today.

      The “Applying What You Have Learned” sections at the end of some chapters are, of course, optional, but should be helpful and enjoyable. And the case studies provided are all of real parents and children, with the names and identifying details changed, of course.

      Above all, I hope that you use this book with pleasure. Having an HSC is a great blessing. Yes, there are some complications because your child is “different,” but here is this book’s motto (it was mine even before I understood that my son was an HSC): To have an exceptional child you must be willing to have an exceptional child. You have one. And this book will teach you how to raise him to be not only exceptional, but healthy, loving, well-adjusted, and happy.

       Is Your Child Highly Sensitive? A Parent’s Questionnaire

      Please answer each question as best you can. Answer TRUE if it is true or at least moderately true of your child, or was for a substantial time in the past. Answer FALSE if it has not been very true of your child, or was never true.

      My child …

1.	T	F	startles easily.
2.	T	F	complains about scratchy clothing, seams in socks, or labels against his/her skin.
3.	T	F	doesn’t usually enjoy big surprises.
4.	T	F	learns better from a gentle correction than strong punishment.
5.	T	F	seems to read my mind.
6.	T	F	uses big words for his/her age.
7.	T	F	notices the slightest unusual odor.
8.	T	F	has a clever sense of humor.
9.	T	F	seems very intuitive.
10.	T	F	is hard to get to sleep after an exciting day.
11.	T	F	doesn’t do well with big changes.
12.	T	F	wants to change clothes if wet or sandy.
13.	T	F	asks lots of questions.
14.	T	F	is a perfectionist.
15.	T	F	notices the distress of others.
16.	T	F	prefers quiet play.
17.	T	F	asks deep, thought-provoking questions.
18.	T	F	is very sensitive to pain.
19.	T	F	is bothered by noisy places.
20.	T	F	notices subtleties (something that’s been moved, a change in a person’s appearance, etc.).
21.	T	F	considers if it is safe before climbing high.
22.	T	F	performs best when strangers aren’t present.
23.	T	F	feels things deeply.

      Scoring

      If you answered TRUE to thirteen or more of the questions, your child is probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that you should base how you treat your child on it. If only one or two questions are true of your child, but they are extremely true, you might also be justified in calling your child highly sensitive.

PART I