The Book Of Values. Yael Eylat-Tanaka

to the inconvenience). There is no such thing as a “bad mood” – it is merely a choice.

      So, choose cheerfulness. After all, why not?

Commitment

       “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits one-self, and then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unfore seen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

       ~ William Hutchison-Murray

      The dictionary definition of commitment is pledge or promise; obligation. A deeper definition is engagement, keeping one's word, being involved (in a cause or relationship), behaving with integrity.

      Each word above is full of significance, but the most direct connotation for commitment is keeping one's word, adhering to promises made. It is embodied in the Golden Rule. So few follow that rule, even though so many profess to a deep religious faith. Doing onto others as one would have others do onto one is a direct reflection of trying to sustain harmonious relationships among our fellows. That means such simple things as arriving on time to an affair to which one has been invited. Do not treat an invitation casually. Extend yourself a bit beyond your own comfort zone; act with empathy to your host, and by extension, your fellow man. Imagine how you would feel, for example, if you prepared a large spread for 20 guests, yet only three showed up? Commitment is a promise – to others and to yourself. Commitment is a contract with others and yourself to keep your word, no matter what. It is thus that trust is established.

      What about the commitment to complete a difficult task, from long years of advanced education to caring for a disabled child? Your commitment to the cause is your determination to keep going no matter what. It is dedication and steadfastness in the face of difficulties.

      Commitment also invokes other unexpected abilities. As the quote above indicates, once we are committed on a course of action, the universe seems to converge in offering its answers and solutions to whatever may be obscure. Assistance seems to stream from many directions, often completely unforeseen.

      Do the thing wholeheartedly.

Compassion

      “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts, and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” ~Albert Einstein

      When we are compassionate, we feel another’s pain and pleasure. We are not separate from our fellows, be they poor homeless refugees or the rich and famous. We are all one.

      This is the philosophical idea of altruism; it is an appeal for us to realize that we are all endowed with emotions that help us summon up the hurt of another and wish to help. This emotion is ingrained within us, as a means of ensuring cooperation and the continuation of our species.

Confidence

       “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one does not need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ~ Laozi

      We are confident when we can trust in ourselves. Confidence is self-assurance, self-reliance, autonomy, and self-sufficiency. If I am asked to speak before a group, I may at first tremble and squirm with stage fright, but I know that I have the skills necessary to overcome my anxiety and face the audience with confidence. If I lose my job, I can rely on whatever talents and proficiencies I have developed over the years to secure another position. If I am self-reliant, I know my strengths, and can take the necessary steps to exploit them.

      Confidence is not wishful thinking, but rather self-knowledge, independence and ability in various aspects of living. What are you good at?

Consideration

      “Courteousness is consideration for others; politeness is the method used to deliver such considerations.” ~Bryant McGill

      In the context of values, consideration is akin to compassion. It is a form of empathy for others’ feelings and schedules that requires a certain behavior designed to ensure that we do not inconvenience our fellows. If we have accepted an invitation, yet find ourselves unable to attend, it is considerate for us to be aware of our host’s schedule and plans, and offer our apologies in a timely manner. Consideration does not extend to flimsy excuses or transparent pretexts to evade obligations. It is thoughtfulness and caring for others.

      Put yourself in someone else’s place.

Contentment

      “The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.” ~Martha Washington

      Abraham Lincoln expounded on the philosophy of contentment, stating that man is as happy as he makes up his mind to be. The concept that one can choose his disposition is evidently far older than pop psychology. Lincoln himself suffered more setbacks and hardships than the average human being can endure, yet, lived with the vision that he, and only he, and not his circumstances, had the capacity to choose his level of happiness.

      Whatever your circumstances, choose contentment. Choose acceptance of the blessings you have been given – for there are many.

Cooperation

      “A choir is made up of many voices, including yours and mine. If one by one all go silent then all that will be left are the soloists. Don’t let a loud few determine the nature of the sound. It makes for poor harmony and diminishes the song.” ~Vera Nazarian

      Man (and woman, of course) evolved to live in groups - just like the wolf and the whale, the dolphin and the elephant, the chimpanzee and the lion. Survival demands cooperation among the members of the group. In a pride of lions, the female hunts along with her sisters, while the males laze in the shade. This is as it should be. A pack of wolves hunts as a group, both males and females, but the hierarchy of feeding on the kill goes from alpha male to alpha female, and on down the line. These are all survival mechanisms that have evolved through the millennia. Humans, too, live in groups. Without cooperation, there would be no food, no safety, no shelter, and the species would perish.

      This holds true for modern life as well. Even though our lives are harried, often frenetic, and we have become accustomed to living in our private shells in our cars, with our air conditioning and entertainment centers, separated by privacy walls, and protected by privacy laws, we are still are a group. We cannot escape this reality. In subtle or more explicit ways, cooperation among each other is essential for us to survive, physically, emotionally, and psychologically.

Courage

      “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” ~Winston Churchill

      Courage is scary. It means facing our fears. We all know that, but what exactly does this look like? Here are some examples. If you have been abused as a child, courage might involve standing up to the abuser, and letting it be known