The Vitality Imperative. Mickey Connolly

      

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      Published by Catalyst Publishing, September 2016, an imprint of RDA Press LLC

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      ISBN: 978-1-937832-92-6

       Dedication

       Mickey Connolly

      To Fairy Tana, wife, partner and guide, for her fierce devotion to living an honorable life and to Emma Rose and Guy, our extraordinary, inspiring children.

       Jim Motroni

      To my wife, Debra and my children, Dylan and Ava, who have contributed immeasurably to my vitality, my growth and my life…and tolerated my failure to always return their generosity in kind.

       Richard McDonald

      To my wife, Amy, thank you for being a confidant and an inspiration to live life with greater presence and heart wide open. I am forever grateful.

      Contents

Dedication

Foreword

Author’s Note

The Vitality Imperative: It starts with a Choice

Presence:

Presence Principle #1: Presence is rational, emotional, and physical

Presence Principle #2: The first act of leadership is presence

Presence Principle #3: All improvement begins with what is present

Presence Principle #4: Presence improves performance

Presence Principle #5: Presence improves with practice

Presence Practice #1: Physical awareness

Presence Practice #2: Emotional awareness

Presence Practice #3: Rational awareness

Empathy:

       Empathy Principle #1: The test for listening is learning

       Empathy Principle #2: Where you get resistance, do research

       Empathy Principle #3: Beware the four empathy killers

       Empathy Practice #1: An appreciation audit

       Empathy Practice #2: A curiosity challenge

       Empathy Practice #3: A resistance audit

       Purpose:

       Purpose Principle #1: Separate purpose from methods and measurable goals

       Purpose Principle #2: Purpose is what you are for, and worries are what you are against

       Purpose Principle #3: Align people to purpose

       Purpose Principle #4: Make purpose the boss

       Purpose Principle #5: Keep purpose alive

       Purpose Practice #1: A purpose-method-goal audit

       Purpose Practice #2: Discovering collective purpose

       Purpose Practice #3: Recovering purpose with glad-sad-mad

       Authenticity:

       Authenticity Principle #1: Truth accelerates success and fear decelerates truth

       Authenticity Principle #2: The speed of opinion is faster than the speed of understanding

       Authenticity Principle #3: Accurate inquiry arouses creativity, storytelling, and action

       Authenticity Principle #4: Be true to purpose and true to self

       Authenticity Principle #5: Raise issues at Point Easy

       Authenticity Practice #1: Chart a conversation

       Authenticity Practice #2: From self-deceived to self-aware

       Authenticity Practice #3: The Giraffe Award

       Wonder: