F*ck Feelings: Less Obsessing, More Living. Sarah Bennett

      

       Copyright

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       Dedication

      For the previous generation, Claire and Dr. Jacob Bleiberg, and Beatrice and Jacob Bennett. Tough lives couldn’t stop them from sticking to their values and working hard so that our lives could be so much easier.

      And for friend, mentor, and legendary mensch Dr. Ted Nadelson, who taught us that the best way to help people accept what’s tough about life is to make them laugh.

       Epigraph

      There’s no “should” or “should not” when it comes to having feelings. They’re part of who we are and their origins are beyond our control. When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings.

      —Fred Rogers, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

       Contents

       Cover

       Title Page

       Copyright

       Dedication

       Epigraph

       Introduction: What’s Your Goal?

       Chapter One Fuck Self-Improvement

Taking Back the Reins of Your Life (After a Stampede)

Getting to the Root of Your Problem . . . and Tearing It Out

Becoming a More Positive Person

Stop Fucking Up

Curing Yourself of Addiction

Chapter Two Fuck Self-Esteem

Fighting the Loser’s Curse

Unleashing the Power of Persuasion

Standing Up to Bullies

Overcoming the Stigma of Disability

Saving Your Kid’s Self-Esteem

Chapter Three Fuck Fairness

Defending Your Right to Live in Safety

       Getting Closure After Childhood Abuse

       Getting a Square Deal

       Clearing Your Name

       Getting Justice and/or Closure

       Chapter Four Fuck Helpfulness

       Easing Others’ Sorrow

       Rescuing the Addicted

       Protecting Victims of Injustice

       Brokering Peace at Home

       Raising the Downtrodden

       Chapter Five Fuck Serenity