Managing Anger: Simple Steps to Dealing with Frustration and Threat. Gael Lindenfield

      Managing Anger

      Simple Steps to Dealing with Frustration and Threat

      Gael Lindenfield

      

       To Stuart, my husband, whose love, courage, honesty and humour have enabled me to take so many strides forward in my struggle to manage my own anger more positively and constructively.

      Table of Contents

       Cover Page

       Title Page

List of Exercises

Introduction

ONE Understanding More About Anger

CHAPTER 1 Anger’s Journey from Stimulus to Response

CHAPTER 2 Anger and Our Bodies

CHAPTER 3 Anger and Our Minds

       CHAPTER 4 Anger and Our Behaviour

       CHAPTER 5 Personal Anger Patterns

       TWO Managing Our Own Anger

       CHAPTER 6 Step 1: Challenge and Change Your Attitudes

       CHAPTER 7 Step 2: Take Control of Your Fears

       CHAPTER 8 Step 3: Face the ‘Beast’ Within Yourself

       CHAPTER 9 Step 4: Deal with the Backlog of Unresolved Anger

       CHAPTER 10 Step 5: Learn to Express Feelings Appropriately and Skilfully

       CHAPTER 11 Step 6: Find Constructive Channels for Your Anger Energy

       THREE How to Deal with Other People’s Anger

       Introduction

       CHAPTER 12 Facing an Angry Outburst

       CHAPTER 13 In the Wake of the Outburst

       CHAPTER 14 Dealing with the Chronic or Repressed Anger of Other People

       CHAPTER 15 In the Face of Violence

       FOUR Preventative Strategies

       Introduction

       CHAPTER 16 Strategies for Yourself

       CHAPTER 17 Strategies for Others

       Further Reading

       Index

       Acknowledgements

       About the author:

       Copyright

       About the Publisher

       List of Exercises

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My Rights

The Price of My ‘Niceness’

Dealing with Irrational Fears

Handling Rational Fears

Exploring My Darker Side

Uncovering Childhood Wounds

Identifying Your Inner Child’s Anger

Healing Childhood Wounds

Unresolved Anger from Adulthood

Assertive Anger Scripts

Action for Justified Anger

Positive Self-talk

Self-protection Techniques for Criticism

No Excuse

Sounding Out My Self-esteem

Stress Monitoring

My Stress Alert Chart

Challenging My Blinkers

Improving Communication Skills

Analysing My Relationships

Management Spot-check

       Introduction

      To most of us, the word ‘anger’ conjures up fearful and unpleasant images. In our minds, this is an emotion we generally associate with scenes of abuse, hurt, violence and destruction. But this dreadful reputation is very unfair to this natural, basic emotion. After all, it is actually designed to be a positive and constructive aid to survival. Its function is to provide us with vital boosts of both physical and emotional energy, just when we are most in need of either protection or healing.

      But it is hard to remember the positive nature of anger today. Not only are we bombarded by media stories depicting the awful power of uncontrolled anger, we are also surrounded in our daily life by examples of people desperately trying to pretend that they have risen above this primitive animal emotion. This is not surprising when we consider that most of us were brought up to believe