The 100 Most Asked Questions About Love, Sex and Relationships. Barbara Angelis De

       81 How can I learn to trust men again?

       82 When is it too late to leave a loveless relationship and find happiness?

       83 Should you continue to spend time with an ex-lover as a friend after you break up?

       84 How can you break up with someone without causing that person pain?

       85 How do you know when a relationship just isn’t going to work, and it’s time to leave?

       86 Should you stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of your children?

       87 Is there such a thing as having been hurt too much to even want to give a relationship one more chance?

       88 How soon after getting divorced should someone start dating again? How do you know when you’re ready to have a relationship?

       89 Is it harmful to continue having sex with your ex-lover?

       Living and Loving

       90 Is it appropriate for a widower or widow to start dating again even if his grown children disapprove?

       91 Is it true that a woman shouldn’t pursue a man or initiate a relationship because he will lose interest without the challenge?

       92 How soon should a single parent tell a prospective partner that she has children?

       93 What’s your opinion of bachelor parties? Can they have a damaging effect on a relationship?

       94 How can I find a good therapist? What should I look for?

       95 If you have a friend who is in an abusive relationship, should you try to help, or mind your own business?

       96 How do I deal with the negative influence of my husband’s ex-wife on our relationship?

       97 What should you do as a parent when you hate your child’s choice of an intimate partner?

       98 What do you do about a partner who insists all the problems in the relationship are yours?

       99 Is it normal to feel jealous of the attention my wife gives to the dog?

       100 Do you believe there is such a thing as a soul mate? Can we have more than one soul mate?

       Index

       Acknowledgments

       About the Author

       Also by the Author

       Copyright

       About the Publisher

      Dear Reader,

      

      Everywhere I go, and I mean everywhere, people ask me questions about their love life. I can be eating dinner in a restaurant, standing in line for a movie, sitting on an airplane, or walking down the street—it doesn’t matter—and someone will approach me with a question they’re desperate to get answered. I’ve talked to men and women about the most intimate details of their relationships in the strangest of places, from the dressing room of a department store, to the galley of a jumbo jetliner crossing the Atlantic in the middle of the night, to a hiking trail in the California mountains, to the restroom of a museum in Paris.

      What do people ask me? ANYTHING!!! I’ve had a salesperson ask me if I thought she should stay with her boyfriend even though he was sleeping with his ex-wife … while I was buying underwear! I’ve had a Marine officer roll down his car window and ask me to explain why his girlfriend was mad that he went to a friend’s bachelor party… while his vehicle drove alongside mine at fifty miles an hour! I’ve had a security guard at an airport ask my advice on how he could give his wife an orgasm … while he X-rayed my carry-on bags! Then there was the time a cab driver was intent on discovering the secrets of getting women to be attracted to him and (as I discovered later) drove me miles out of my way in order to prolong the ride!

      However unusual the circumstances or delicate the questions, most of the time I’m happy to offer my answers to the people who approach me (that is, unless I’m in the middle of chewing a mouthful of food, or trying to have an intimate night out with my husband!!). The reason is simple: I have great respect for anyone who has the honesty and courage to search for the truth about love, sex, and relationships. I believe that most of us need to ask ourselves and the people we love more questions, questions that will help us live with more integrity, love with more success, and move through our days and nights with more peace.

      After almost twenty years of teaching about personal and spiritual development, it dawned on me that there were certain questions I kept hearing over and over again, at my seminars, through letters, on call-in radio and television programs. They are the kind of questions that anyone who has ever been in an intimate relationship needs the answers to. They are the questions you’ve asked yourself when you’re lying in bed late at night, the questions your friends call and ask you when they’re having a hard time, the questions whose answers you wish you’d had before your first date.

      I wrote this book to be like a “love encyclopedia,” offering you information in various categories to help you with whatever you’re going through at a particular time in your life. You can read the book from beginning to end, or just turn to a section that specifically applies to your issues right now. And whenever you’re having an argument with your mate, or when you’re wondering how to handle a particular situation in your love life, or when a friend in a romantic crisis calls you up asking for advice, look through the list of questions, turn to that page, and you’ll find the answer.

      If you’ve read any of my other books, you know that I believe creating successful relationships takes a lot of commitment and hard work. So obviously, The 100 Most Asked Questions about Love, Sex and Relationships isn’t meant to be a cure-all for every personal issue you are faced with in your love life. My hope, though, is that what I’ve offered you in these pages will help connect you to your own inner wisdom, and guide you to discover the answers that are already waiting for you in your own heart.

      In love,

      Barbara De Angelis

      July