Leadership is a Relationship. Michael S. Erwin

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Название Leadership is a Relationship
Автор произведения Michael S. Erwin
Жанр Управление, подбор персонала
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      When we communicate in ways that don't capture these subtle, nonverbal inputs, we lose a lot of what our brains want to know about others. We lose the stuff of great poetry and salient memories—the way your dad wrinkled his face right before telling a joke, the little tap on the shoulder an important teacher would always give after a job well done—and we lose a treasure trove of subconsciously processed, vital information about the behavior and beliefs of others. All of these tiny pieces of information gradually form attachment to another living being. These are the fundamental bits that become a relationship.

      After all, bad actors can co-opt the immense promise of flexible work. Remote and gig work can be a shortcut for the callous boss who wants to get a job done quickly, cheaply, and without any other considerations. Outsourcing tasks to anonymous remote workers can cut costs by taking advantage of different regional expectations about pay or the value of a particular skill. You can get those pesky few lines of code taken care of by an unmet freelancer who lives … well, it doesn't matter where, does it? Get it done, pay next to nothing for it, and move along. Remote work, in other words, can be even more exploitative than traditional employment.

      The problem isn't technology itself. Used thoughtfully, many of the apps that now steal our attention are capable of enriching our lives, broadening our worlds, and allowing us to send a letter to a loved one on the other side of Earth … instantly. It isn't bad that remote and gig work exist—they let millions of people craft better lives.

      It isn't that relationships will somehow go extinct; the problem is both more nuanced and, because it's so easy to misunderstand, quite pernicious: it's never been harder to practice the kinds of behaviors that build substantive relationships. To build a meaningful life in relation to others, we have to consciously put people first in our noisy digital world.

      If this sounds simple, that's because it is. As a society, we just haven't decided to take relationships seriously. It's easy to replace the time-intensive behaviors that build relationships with quick texts and ephemeral messages; it's easy to replace a social lunch with a granola bar in front of the computer because we're “too busy getting work done.” With team members spread out over long distances, each working in physical isolation, forward-thinking leaders need compassionate solutions for entire teams now systemically deprived of face-to-face interaction with their peers. Even the most cynical, number-crunching leader can acknowledge that in a world where the job-for-life model is merely a vestige of the past, cultivating durable relationships is just good business. You never know who will pop back into your life.

      In this book, we'll share stories and tested tips for building a culture of relationships in the twenty-first century. We're not here to summarize the latest findings in psychology or sociology; we're here to showcase examples of how this kind of leadership actually works. We've spoken with role models from a variety of backgrounds, and whose accomplishments take many forms. We've interviewed educators, military officers, and athletes. Some are CEOs and generals, but most aren't. Some don't even readily refer to themselves as leaders. What they have in common is a core belief that other people matter, and that real leadership starts with that premise. Whereas some people are motivated by a title or power, the leaders in this book approach leadership as a natural result of their dedication to the people in their lives. They are, fundamentally, people looking to serve.

      Their stories also show how leading with relationships has major benefits in seven key areas, each of which has its own chapter:

       Accountability

       Forgiveness

       Resilience

       Trust

       Coalition-building

       Loyalty

       Stability

      By the time you've reached the end of the book, you'll have new strategies with which you, too, can lead through the strength of your connection to others. At the end of each story, we highlight one key lesson to take back to your life. At the end of each chapter, we also give you key takeaways and questions for reflection, which you can use to start creating a personalized plan for maturing your own practice of leadership.

      You can read this book cover to cover, and we hope that you do. But you can also skip between chapters, focusing on the topics that you're most curious about. We've designed this book as an ongoing resource for you. Just crack it open to whichever topic you want to revisit, and think about how your answers to the questions for reflection