Heart & Soul. Daphne Rose Kingma

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      Heart & Soul

      Living the Joy, Truth and Beauty of Your Intimate Relationship

       Daphne Rose Kingma

      Conari Press

      Berkeley, California

      Copyright ©1995 by Daphne Rose Kingma

      All Rights Reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission, except in the case of brief quotations in critical articles or reviews. For information, contact Conari Press, 1144 65th Street, Suite B, Emeryville, CA 94608.

      Printed in the United States of America on recycled paper

      Conari Press books are distributed by Publishers Group West

      ISBN: 1-57324-001-X

      Cover design by Floyd Carter and Christine Leonard Raquepaw

      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Kingma, Daphne Rose.

      Heart & Soul : living the joy, truth, and beauty of your intimate relationship Daphne Rose Kingma.

      p. cm.

      ISBN 1-57324-001-X : $9.95

      1. Intimacy (Psychology). 2. Interpersonal relations. I. Title. II. Title: Heart and soul.

      BF575.I5K56 1995

      158' .2-dc20

      94-48648

      CIP

      This book was floated up on sweet wings of love. My deep thanks to Sunta Oannes and Sunshine Espirit for providing the cradle in which so many of these words were written, to Tom and Eileen for my garret in Nantucket, to my blessed sister, Chris, for first bringing these words to the page, and to my dear ones at Conari Press: my editor, Mary Jane Ryan, for patience, humor, and steadfastness in love; to Karen “Grace” Bouris, for aesthetic wisdom and genteel persistence; to Emily Miles for sensitivity and graciousness; to Jennifer for laughter; to Claudia, for kindness; to David for tenacity; and to Will Glennon, for real listening.

      With great love

      for

      Harold Yvan Le Brock whose loving heart and exquisite soul are joy, truth, and beauty embodied

      The food of the heart is love; the true condition of the soul is union.

      CONTENTS

       Heart and Soul

       In Exaltation of Love

       THE JOY OF LOVE

       Appreciate the Moment

       Aspire to a Spiritual Relationship

       Rejoice Together

       Open to the Ecstatic Energy

       Stop Trying So Hard

       Cast Off Your Pride

       Discover Sex as Sacred Reunion

       Be Extravagant with Your Praise

       Accept the Glorious Compromises of Love

       Attend to the Unfolding

       Lie in the Rose Petals

       Practice Happiness to Prepare for Joy

       Play

       Honor the Anger Inside You

       Share Your Transcendent Moments

       Rest in the Radiance of Forgiveness

       Be Available to the Mystery

       Know One Another Like the Seasons

       THE TRUTH IN LOVE

       Live the Truth

       See Your Beloved as a Spiritual Being

       Have the Courage to Say No

       Express Your Deep Fears

       Acknowledge Your Relationship Ambivalence

       Accept What Is

       Face Your Denials

       Respect the Opposite Sex

       Be Open to Receive the Message

       Practice the Courage of Criticism

       Open Your Heart to the Life-Changing Remark

       Integrate the Divine Erotic

       Recognize the Longings of Your Spirit

       Tell Your Beloved Your Story

       Be Conscious of Your Unconscious

       Seek the Common Ground

       Hold Your Beloved in Special Awareness

       Raise the Consciousness of Your Love

       Seek Your Emotional Healing

       Allow Your Needs to Be Your Guide

       Inhabit the Paradox of Urgency and Surrender

       Face Your Difficulties Head-on

       Move to the Spiritual Level

       Protect Your Soul

       THE BEAUTY OF LOVE

       Pursue Beauty

       Learn the Language of Intimacy

       Be Patient, Gentle, and Kind

       Value Your Precious Incarnation

       Look After Your Body

       Practice the Art of Empathy

       Lighten Up

       Nourish Your Heart and Soul

       Consider Your Beloved

       Cuddle Up

       Pay Attention to Timing

       Rediscover the Harmony

       Honor Yourself

       Let Go of It All

       Offer Loving Service

       Seek the Deliverance Point

       Celebrate the “We” of You