Interpersonal Savvy: Building and Maintaining Solid Working Relationships. Meena Wilson

      

      AN IDEAS INTO ACTION GUIDEBOOK

      Interpersonal Savvy

      Building and Maintaining Solid Working Relationships

       IDEAS INTO ACTION GUIDEBOOKS

      Aimed at managers and executives who are concerned with their own and others’ development, each guidebook in this series gives specific advice on how to complete a developmental task or solve a leadership problem.

CONTRIBUTORS	Bill Gentry, Kelly Hannum,
	Ancella Livers, Hughes Van
	Stichel, Meena Wilson,
	Sophia Zhao
DIRECTOR OF ASSESSMENTS, TOOLS, AND PUBLICATIONS	Sylvester Taylor
MANAGER, PUBLICATION DEVELOPMENT	Peter Scisco
EDITORS	Stephen Rush
	Karen Lewis
ASSOCIATE EDITOR	Shaun Martin
COPY EDITOR	Tazmen Hansen
WRITER	Taylor Scisco
DESIGN AND LAYOUT	Joanne Ferguson
COVER DESIGN	Laura J. Gibson
	Chris Wilson, 29 & Company
RIGHTS AND PERMISSIONS	Kelly Lombardino

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      AN IDEAS INTO ACTION GUIDEBOOK

      Interpersonal Savvy

      Building and Maintaining Solid Working Relationships

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      Table of Contents

       What Is Interpersonal Savvy?

       Interpersonal Savvy in the Workplace

       How to Develop Interpersonal Savvy

       Your Behaviors—Too Much of a Good Thing?

       Red Flag Scenarios

       Your Red Flag Journal and How to Use It

       It’s Not a Trick—It’s Real Life

       Background

       Suggested Resources

       IN BRIEF

      Interpersonal savvy is the ability to build and maintain solid working relationships with your superiors, colleagues, and direct reports. It helps you make the most out of everyday interactions, using skills such as good listening, empathy, sincerity, and teamwork. Your behaviors shape how others perceive you in the workplace, and a firm knowledge of interpersonal savvy will allow you to best shape those perceptions to achieve the greatest results. Self-awareness of the positive qualities you want to demonstrate, combined with specific actions to implement those qualities, will lead to positive outcomes in how others view and interact with you. One thing to watch out for is taking a good quality too far—for example, letting your self-respect become arrogance. Being on the lookout for these scenarios and taking the time to implement more positive alternatives will further help to raise your interpersonal skills. By continuing to develop interpersonal savvy, whether you think you have the skills or not, you will become a more thoughtful, friendly, approachable, and trustworthy leader who can achieve results.

      What Is Interpersonal Savvy?

      Interpersonal savvy is your ability to build and maintain solid working relationships with colleagues, superiors, and direct reports. It’s a capacity made up of several interlocking skills, such as the following:

      • good listening

      • empathy

      • honesty

      • sincerity

      • a strong orientation toward teamwork

      • trustworthiness

      • supportiveness

      • a willingness to share responsibility

      We all like to believe we possess these qualities, and everyone does have the capacity for interpersonal savvy. The challenge is building that capacity so others see that you have these qualities. You must be a good listener, an honest person, sincere, and trustworthy. This is especially important as you transition into positions of greater authority, where more people will look to you for leadership.

      Daily behaviors shape people’s perceptions of you, and those perceptions determine their feelings about you. Interpersonal savvy allows you to better navigate and understand those perceptions and to build trust with your colleagues, which will in turn improve their (and your) efforts in the organization. This kind of open behavior toward others can be intimidating for you and your colleagues, which is why it’s even more important that you exhibit such behavior. Your example shows colleagues that your workplace is a safe place to be patient, honest, and straightforward when communicating.

      Throughout this guidebook, we use the terms savvy, skills, and behaviors somewhat interchangeably, though technically these words have different definitions. We view these terms as linked: developing your interpersonal skills will lead to tangible behaviors that you can exhibit in the workplace, and continually exhibiting such behaviors will lead to an