The Truth About Sex A Sex Primer for the 21st Century Volume I: Sex and the Self. Gloria G. Brame

      The Truth About Sex

       A SEX PRIMER FOR THE 21ST CENTURY

       Volume I: Sex and the Self

      by

      Dr. Gloria G. Brame

      CCB Publishing, British Columbia, Canada

      The Truth About Sex, A Sex Primer for the 21st Century

       Volume I: Sex and the Self

      Copyright ©2011 by Dr. Gloria G. Brame

       ISBN-13 978-1-926918-56-3

       First Edition

      Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication

       Brame, Gloria G., 1955-

      The truth about sex [electronic resource] : a sex primer for the 21st century : sex and the self / by Gloria G. Brame.

      Electronic monograph in PDF format.

      ISBN 978-1-926918-56-3

      Also available in print format.

      1. Sex. I. Title.

      HQ21.B7 2011a 306.7 C2011-902653-8

      Cover artwork and interior layout by David Ampola.

      Extreme care has been taken to ensure that all information presented in this book is accurate and up to date at the time of publishing. Neither the author nor the publisher can be held responsible for any errors or omissions. Additionally, neither is any liability assumed for damages resulting from the use of the information contained herein.

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      Publisher: CCB Publishing

      British Columbia, Canada

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      Contents

—( SECTION ONE )— Masturbation and Orgasm

Introduction

Chapter One: Masturbation

       Chapter Two: A Brief History of Masturbation

       Chapter Three: Orgasm

      —( SECTION TWO )— Thinking about Sex

       Introduction

       Chapter Four: Talking about Sex

       Chapter Five: Defining Sex

       Chapter Six: The Best Reasons to Have Sex

       Chapter Seven: Sexual Intelligence

       Chapter Eight: Sex Problems are Life Problems

       Chapter Nine: Biology is Destiny, But Not the Way You May Think

       Afterword

       Exercises and Advice to Improve Your Orgasms

       EXERCISE 1: Love You

       EXERCISE 2: Feel You

       EXERCISE 3: Give Yourself an Orgasm

       A Note About Case Studies:

       To protect the confidentiality of my clients, all case studies in this book are composites of at least two to four different patients who presented with similar problems. Names are fictitious to further protect their privacy.

       YOU who celebrate bygones! I project the history of the future.

      

Walt Whitman

Section One

       MASTURBATION AND ORGASM

Introduction

      Sex Matters

      Some years ago, my mother peevishly inquired, “When are you going to write a book that won’t embarrass me?” She was dismayed that her nice Jewish daughter studied a subject that she considered dirty. To her, sex was a private, embarrassing act, like using the toilet. It was disgusting to discuss it openly, much less spend time brooding over what goes on “down there.” It’s down there, for goodness sake.

      Most of us are raised to believe that sex doesn’t — or at least, shouldn’t — matter. It shouldn’t even matter that much in marriage. In fact, nice people shouldn’t spend too much time thinking about sex. As the social narrative goes, if civilization is the sum of our intellectual achievements, then sex is the shameful burden of our primal roots. It’s dirty. It’s something you have to do to have children so put it off as long as possible and then just close your eyes and do it. Preferably with the lights off.

      It’s a strange dogma to apply to one of humanity’s greatest and most enduring obsessions. Whether or not you talk about it, you cannot escape sex. Sex is all around us all the time — in the texts we send and the sites we visit, in the catcalls from construction workers on the street, in the hot outfit your neighbor’s wearing, in the bouquet of flowers someone’s bringing home