Хватит быть хорошим! Как прекратить подстраиваться под других и стать счастливым. Тома Д’ансембур

Читать онлайн.



Скачать книгу

психолог, ученик Карла Роджерса.

      3

      Маршалл Розенберг – доктор клинической психологии, борец за мир, которого знают во всех странах, основатель Центра ненасильственного общения. Горячо рекомендую прочитать его книгу «Язык жизни. Ненасильственное общение».

      4

      Ги Корно «И счастья нет в любви земной», 1997 (Глава «Любовь и война»).

      5

      Там же.

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