Summary: The Emotional Compass. How to Think Better about Your Feelings. Ilse Sand. Smart Reading

anger you often find fear of being abandoned. Gather some your courage and ask directly: "Does what you see in me make you like me less?" Most probably the answer will be "no", but during this conversation you’ll be able to clarify many things in your relationship.

      If you were the one who attacked your opponent, whether deliberately or not, and caused narcissistic anger, try to show the person that you still see him or her in a positive light and one particular situation doesn’t change your overall relationship. This will quickly cool things down. When you want to give negative feedback, talk about actions, not the person. Don’t say "you’re stupid," say "you made a careless mistake."

      2. Others offer you compassion or sympathy which you either haven’t asked for or are not ready for at the moment.