You're Strong, Smart, and You Got This. Kate Allan

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      Also by Kate Allan

      You Can Do All Things: Drawings, Affirmations and

      Mindfulness to Help with Anxiety and Depression

      It’s Your Weirdness That Makes You Wonderful:

      A Self-Acceptance Prompt Journal

      Thera-Pets: 64 Emotional Support Animal Cards

      Copyright © 2020 Kate Allan.

      Published by Mango Publishing Group, a division of Mango Media Inc.

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      You’re Strong, Smart, and You Got This: Drawings, Affirmations, and Comfort to Help with Anxiety and Depression

      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication number: 2020933917

      ISBN: (print) 978-1-64250-120-9, (ebook) 978-1-64250-121-6

      BISAC category code: SEL004000—SELF-HELP / Affirmations

      Printed in the United States of America

      Table of Contents

      Introduction

      This Is for When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

      This Is for When You Can’t See What’s Ahead

      Whoever You Are Today Is PLENTY “Good Enough”

      Self-Shame Doesn’t Help

      “Love” Is An ACTION

      You Belong Here, I Promise

      Conclusion

      About the Author

Introduction

      When I was twenty-five years old, a depressive episode stopped me in my tracks. I struggled to find purpose or meaning in anything—my brain seemingly refused to produce the positive feelings of connection, creation, or victory. And even worse, my never-ending internal monologue continually repeated how much of a disappointment and a failure I was.

      What changed? While browsing a blog, I came across the art of rubyetc. She had an amazing way of illustrating depression struggles with humor and honesty. And I realized I wasn’t alone.

      With encouragement from a kind and helpful therapist, I began writing my own affirmations and doodling cute little animals in the hopes of trying to find compassion for myself. Though I didn’t feel I deserved goodness, I was determined that for every shame, disappointment, and negative judgement I thought and felt, I could find a kind counter thought. I theorized that kindness and colorful animals could help me heal. And you know what? They did actually help. My depression has never lifted entirely, but I have learned the battle is only half as painful when I’ve stopped shaming myself for it.

      So, after several years of writing and drawing affirming animals to help me get through, I created this book. You’re Strong, Smart, and You Got This is my attempt to accumulate all the lessons I’ve learned and philosophies I’ve adopted in order to live a fulfilling and productive life, despite depression and anxiety. I wrote each chapter to my younger self, with confidence that if I could invent a time machine and present this to a younger Kate, she would not have felt so alien and hopeless.

      I obviously do not have all the answers, but I have come a long way. And my philosophy is, if I find something that helps, I want to share it. We all have our messes to navigate our own way though, right? I hope that in sharing mine, you, too, will feel less alone.

      Dear Past Kate,

      I made this book for you. Since I didn't get a chance to read anything like it when I was your age, I wrote it instead. Within, you'll find several short letters that I know will help you with a lot of your specific struggles. Oh, and drawings, too. Please: Never. Stop. Drawing.

      When you're feeling overwhelmed, when you're afraid of not knowing what's ahead, when you feel like you're just not good enough, when you hate yourself, when your relationships don't quite feel right, and you feel like you don't belong anywhere—please READ THIS. No matter what problem feels insurmountable right now, just remember: You're Strong, Smart, and YOU GOT THIS.

      Love,

      Future Kate

This Is for When You're Feeling Overwhelmed

      Hello Younger Me,

      You are trying your hardest, but it never feels like it's quite enough, does it? There's always some sort of disaster looming ahead, right? Well, as an older, more experienced version of you, I can tell you—this feeling never really goes away. I'm sorry, I know that's bad news.

      But, you know what? You will get better at dealing with it. You'll learn to view your days in segments of time—yes, you may have an upcoming test you could very well fail, BUT it's only an hour out of your entire day, and afterwards you can drink some tea, play a video game, and chat with a friend.