Not that Kinda Girl. Lisa Maxwell

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      Lisa Maxwell

      Not that Kinda Girl

      A Story of Secrets, Longing and Laughter

      Dedication

      For Paul and Beau

      Contents

       Title Page

      Dedication

      

      Introduction: Down at the Duke

      1 Meet the Family

      2 Early Days at the Elephant

      3 Italia Conti Girls

      4 My Secret Shame

      5 First Love

      

      Photographic Insert I

      6 Moving On

      7 Down to the Wire

      8 The Lisa Maxwell Show

      9 Life in LA

      10 Meltdown

      11 Coming Home

      12 Falling in Love

      13 Beautiful Beau

      

      Photographic Insert II

      14 Being DI Sam Nixon

      15 Running on Empty

      16 As One Door Opens …

      17 Father Unknown

      18 Finally Me

      

      Acknowledgements

      About the Author

      Copyright

      About the Publisher

      INTRODUCTION

      Down at the Duke

      As I walked towards the Duke of Sutherland in Walworth I could hear Nan’s voice belting out one of her favourite songs:

      ‘I’d like to be good …

      And I know that I should …

      I’m just not that kind of a girl …’

      Just hearing her voice gave me a warm feeling. I’d always loved these words, because they’re funny and so familiar to me, from my earliest memories. As I pushed the heavy pub door open she was still at the piano, her left hand vamping a rhythm without moving across the keyboard, her right picking out the tune. She reached the last two lines:

      ‘Old Tommy Tucker …

      Everyone knows he’s a dirty old … fella!’

      The pub erupted in cheers and laughter, even though everyone there had heard the song before. I made my way through the fuggy, crowded bar, inhaling cigarette smoke and beer fumes, to the upholstered bench seat where Nan always sat with Grandad and their friends. She was basking in the applause and free drinks being sent across to their table.

      ‘Oh my Gawd, look who’s ’ere! Hide your wallet, Jim,’ she said when she spotted me.

      ‘I’m saying no, clear off out of here!’ Grandad would always say before I even had time to speak.

      They were both laughing, and so were their friends.

      I’d launch into my speech: ‘Guess what? I’ve seen these shoes in Grants in the Walworth Road, and they’ve only got one pair in my size. They were so nice, they said they’d put them by for me …’

      As I wriggled myself in between them on the bench seat, I’d look at Nan.

      ‘You’d better speak to your grandad,’ she’d say, so I’d turn puppy-dog eyes on him.

      ‘Please, Grandad – they’re really nice,’ I’d tell him.

      ‘I bet they are,’ he’d say.

      ‘Please, Grandad, I won’t ask for anything else ever again!’

      Huge guffaws from everyone round the table.

      ‘How much are they?’ he’d ask, already putting a hand in his pocket.

      ‘Only £14.99.’

      ‘Here’s fifteen nicker – clear off, that’s yer lot!’

      I would skip out of the pub with the whole group smiling and watching me and, I imagine, thinking, ‘Aw, how could you resist her?’ Even though I was 16 I was tiny, slim and, because of my stage-school training, confident. I knew Nan and Grandad were proud of their little Lise whenever I went into the pub, they loved me – and I also knew, from an early age, that when Grandad had a few drinks inside him I could get anything out of him.

      Nan, Grandad and Mum adored me. I lived with all three of them and I was the centre of their universes. I never went without anything; they spoiled me rotten. As far as Mum was concerned, nobody could ever point a finger at me and say I lacked anything. Except one big thing she was unable to give me: a father.

      On my birth certificate there are two stark words, words branded on my soul: ‘Father Unknown’.

      Today, with more than half of all babies born to unmarried couples according to the Office of National Statistics, the stigma of being illegitimate has pretty much gone. It’s a word you never hear now, and a good thing, too: it means illegal, beyond the law. That’s a terrible stamp to put on a child. I was born outside the law, and back then in the 1960s only 5 per cent of all babies did not have married parents.

      My birth was something friends and family whispered about, hoping I wasn’t listening. A child born ‘out of wedlock’ was something to be ashamed of, the subject of gossip and innuendo: a stain on a family. This was something I was aware of from the very beginning. I always felt the love I was given was tainted with embarrassment and shame, a shame that has coloured my life in so many ways; it has affected my relationships, my work, everything. It’s a shadow that stretched long and deep and out of which I have only recently emerged into the sunshine.

      Yes, I have always been bright and bubbly, funny, up for a laugh and a party, but the parties, the drinks and the laughter, everything was a way to keep on moving, to make sure I never stood still long enough to look deep inside myself. Finally, in the last few years, I have come off that merry-go-round and found a quiet, happy place in life where I can face up to myself and my story. I’ve come to terms with my birth; I know who I am. It’s been a long and at times difficult journey, but writing this book has also helped me find myself and lay to rest the ghosts that have haunted me.

      CHAPTER 1

      Meet the Family

      I was only three years old, too small to see over the balcony outside our second-storey council flat at the Elephant and Castle, but there was a metal grille set into the brickwork that gave me a view of the estate below. While Nan tried to drag me back indoors, I was clinging to the bars, screaming and kicking hysterically. Below, I could see my mum getting into a minicab with a man in the back.

      ‘Your mother’s entitled to go out …’ Nan was saying as she struggled to contain my hysteria.

      ‘She’s with a man, she’s with a man!’ I was yelling.

      ‘Just get in the car, Val. She’ll be all right,’ Nan shouted to Mum as she finally prised me away and dragged me back inside.

      Mum seemed to be in some sort of danger: