Creative Ideas. For special children. Dina Veksler

FRIEND

      special interest of an autistic child

      ELINA’S USUAL MORNING

      Elina’s Sunday morning began as usual. After breakfast, she looked with annoyance at the room, where balls of all kinds and sizes were scattered around.

      «Johnny, I asked you to clean them up after you finished playing,» Elina muttered hopelessly.

      John, seven years old and autistic, looked at her with his big, innocent eyes. When the diagnosis was first made, Elina struggled to accept that her son would forever be different. Terms like «special child» caused her deep despair. Over time, it became clear that John’s condition was a lifelong reality. Elina’s life had changed forever.

      John’s father, who initially tried to support her, eventually left. Elina didn’t blame him; she simply allowed him to go, left alone with her child. She was grateful for his financial support but couldn’t understand how he could leave a child who needed so much love and care. She resolved to give John a worthy future, no matter the cost.

      She spent hours talking with her son, even though at the age of seven he could only say one word: «mom.» It hurt Elina to tears, but the way John said it revealed a range of emotions.

      John was a charming child, but his need for attention sometimes created problems. He was especially demanding when someone visited their home. Alone, he could entertain himself, but with visitors, he became restless and insistent on having Elina’s attention.

      As he grew older, his autistic behaviors became more pronounced. He could sit for hours in an empty box until Elina got him out. Perhaps the small, enclosed space gave him a sense of security. His other passion was balls; he could twirl and twist them endlessly.

      One doctor suggested removing all of John’s balls, but Elina doubted this advice. The balls were one of the few things that soothed her child. Instead of taking them away, she bought him more, in various colors, sizes, and textures. John looked truly happy when she poured out this treasure before him.

      «Mom…» John whispered, fascinated by his new toys.

      Many acquaintances drifted away after learning about John’s condition, but Elina didn’t mind. She valued those who stayed, like her best friend Irene, who had been a constant in her life.

      Irene always brought a whirlwind of energy into Elina’s home, sharing news about mutual acquaintances, her family, and her acting courses. She made jewelry from beads and stones and often brought gifts, including new balls for John. Her visits revived Elina’s zest for life.

      However, Irene’s visits also triggered John’s need for attention. He would pull Elina away, show her his balls, and do everything to distract her from Irene. They saw it as childish jealousy, and they tried to understand and accommodate him. Their visits rarely lasted more than an hour due to John’s persistence.

      Elina dreamed of explaining to John how important Irene’s visits were to her, how much she wanted to immerse herself in their conversations, even if only for half an hour.

      Irene also wished to help Elina find some respite. About once a month, she would make timid attempts to drag her childhood friend out of the house to stir her up. One day, knowing that Elina wouldn’t dare to agree in person, Irene preceded her proposal with a call.

      IRENE’S IDEA

      «Listen, Elina, have you thought about the fact that he needs some kind of constructive, purposeful activity to be involved in? It seems to me that this would do him good, and it would give you a little bit of freedom – you need it so much. I recently read how parents develop the abilities of their children with autism through photography. I will send you a link. In my opinion, you and John could make an excellent photobook on the subject of his balls. After all, it is obvious that they are his greatest passion,» Irene suggested, having listened with interest to Elina’s stories about John before and offering various ways to diversify his life with benefits.

      Irene’s words did not leave Elina’s head for several days. The idea seemed very interesting to her. She thought about how nice it would be if John had some kind of productive activity, if his blind passion for balls grew into something more, something creative and interesting. In the end, she took out an old camera, which she rarely used.

      «Maybe this could be the start of something new for John,» Elina thought, holding the camera. She smiled, thinking of her son’s excitement about the project, and felt a glimmer of hope for a brighter future.

      ELINA GETTING STARTED

      First, she took a couple of pictures of her son playing with balls in his room, office, and kitchen. Later, she looked at these photos, and some vague thought was spinning in her head. It seemed to her that John in the photographs looked somehow different.

      Suddenly, Elina realized what it was. Her son’s expression was unusually calm. Normally agitated, here he looked surprisingly peaceful. In the bustle of weekdays, it is sometimes difficult to notice changes in facial expressions and behaviour. Photography has become an excellent indicator of the real situation.

      The idea of studying his son unnoticed, with the help of a photo, was inspiring. Elina began to take photos of her son and his balls more and more often and more and more inspiringly. The son noticed her actions, but was not particularly interested in them. When she had a small collection of such photos, she printed them out, bought a binder, sheets of multi-colored thick paper and transparent protective files, deciding that they would become materials for creating a photobook.

      – Look, Johnny. I have pictures of you with balls. Let’s try to make a real photobook about them. We need to choose the best photos, attach them to these multi-colored sheets with tape and arrange them in the right order. Let’s try! What photos do you like the most?

      At first, the child only enthusiastically examined the images of himself in the company of his favorite balls. Then he suddenly took a sheet of yellow cardboard and carefully placed on it a photograph of him embracing a yellow ball. He did the same with the others: very thoughtfully John laid out photos of himself and his balls on sheets of paper, according to their colors. Elina was impressed by the enthusiasm and taste, with which her boy coped with the task.

      Their first photobook turned out to be very cute. However, more importantly, John liked this activity, and began to devote a lot of time to it. When the book was ready, Elina realized that he was capable of more and it was time to move on.

      – John, do you want to try to take a picture of your balls yourself? What if we make a whole photobook about them?

      Hearing his favorite word «balls», the boy looked up at the camera and began to listen carefully to his mother. Elina diligently explained to him the essence of the camera in the simplest words. It turned out to be easier than expected. On the same day, John took the first beautiful photo: mom surrounded by his favorite balls.

      JOHN GOT CARRIED AWAY

      An unprecedented occupation unexpectedly captivated John. He enthusiastically took pictures of his toys. Like a real photographer, he meticulously chose angles. Previously, he always did everything in his own way. Now it was surprising that he listened to the advice of his mother, recognized her experience. And she showed how to make photos more vivid, how to choose the right angle and lighting. Now they work together. Every day John got more great photos.

      Over time, he liked to photograph the same ball, against a different background. Elina bought him large sheets of multi-colored paper for this. He could spend hours doing this and clearly liked the combination of different colors.

      The days flew by. Elina was incredibly pleased with her son’s new occupation. In addition, she felt more freedom than before, as her son began to find his own activities. In addition,